Living our lives based on the Biblical Worldview, we know that the biblical foundation of the family is the person Jesus Christ. Everything that will last is firmly rooted in Him. According to Matthew 7:24-27, everyone who builds their lives on Christ Jesus will be able to withstand any storm life will put us through. Jesus is also called the “chief corner stone” in Matthew 21:42, Mark 12:10, and Luke 20:17. The corner stone of a building insures that the walls and the roof are level and plum making the building strong. Knowing the truth about biblical foundation for the family will equip husband and wife, parents and children to better handle anything that comes our way. In order to build anything that will last, a person needs to know how to build it or read the instructions to best put it together so we’ll look at the Bible (basic instructions before leaving earth) to build our marriages and families.
In Genesis, God created marriage; it is the first institution He creates. In order to have a healthy family, the marriage must be healthy. One of the best ways to insure the marriage is healthy is to examine it based on the “Leave, Cleave, and Weaver Principle.” Genesis 2:24 says, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Based on this passage, both (not just the man) must leave their families (physically, emotionally, and financially) to have a fortified strong marriage; the married couple needs to cleave together which speaks having a sexual relationship to form a strong bond; and lastly, the married couple needs to weave together which speaks of intimacy (emotional, physical, and spiritual connection) with each other. Paul writes in Ephesians 5:21-33 and Colossians 3:18-19 about the relationship of husbands and wives. Ephesians 5:21-33 abounds with instructions for marriage. The key ideas appear in the flow of the argument: submission to one another in the fear of the Lord (verse 21); submission by the wife to her husband as her head, as the church submits to Christ its head (verses 22-24); love by the husband for his wife, as Christ loves the church (verses 25-30); the appeal to Genesis 2:24 (verse 31); and the concluding summary (verse 33) with its emphasis on the husband’s love and the wife’s respect.1 If a husband loves his wife like Paul mentions in verses 25-30 and a wife respects her husband as mentioned in verse 33, most of the conflicts in marriage would be minimized.2 A strong healthy family starts with a strong healthy marriage.
Children are the fruit of some (not all) marriages. Just as the husband is the head of a marriage, when a child or children are produced it’s the responsibility of the husband (now a father) to instruct the child/children the things of God. According to Deuteronomy 6:4-9, fathers have the responsibility to teach his children the ways of God.3 This passage goes as far as to tell when this instruction is to take place; when at home, when outside the home, in the morning after waking up, in the evening just before bedtime, at all meals, anywhere and all times.4 In Ephesians 6:6:4, Paul echoes the need for fathers to teach their children the things of God; the passage reads, “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” It’s never too early to start the instruction of the Lord to your child. My wife and I have talked with my daughter about the love of God and Jesus from her birth; I’m always singing songs and reading Bible stories to her. At 4 years old, Ripley knows that daddy loves her, mommy loves her, and most importantly, God loves her. By fathers teaching our children the ways of God, it insures each child knows about God and allows them to have a standard by which to measure what society might try to teach them. If what society teaches goes against God and the Bible, the well instructed child will know and choose God’s way. Teaching a child God’s ways lays a strong foundation that he/she can build their lives on just as they witnessed their parents doing in the home they were raised.
1 George Knighly III, “Husbands and Wives as Analogues of Christ and the Church Ephesians 5:21 and Colossians 3:18-19,” Bible.org, April 13th 2005. https://bible.org/seriespage/husbands-and-wives-analogues-christ-and-church-ephesians-521-and-colossians-318-19
2 Emerson Eggerichs, Love & Respect, (Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publishers, 2004), 25.
3 Randy Stinson and Timothy Paul Jones, Trained in the Fear of God: Family Ministry in Theological, Historical, and Practical Perspective, (Grand Rapids: Kregel Publication, 2011), 34.
4 Ibid, 35.